Nonmonogamy Affirming Therapy

in-person in Brooklyn and online across NY State


Inclusive Therapy That Validates All Of Your Relationships

You’re looking for a space to talk about your thoughts and feelings without your therapist implying that nonmonogamy is the cause of your symptoms. You need someone who is able to see that your relationship style isn’t a problem that needs to be fixed; it’s a valued part of your life.

At the same time, being in a nontraditional family or relationship structure comes with a unique set of challenges. External judgment, lack of acceptance or support, and internalized stigma can all contribute to feelings of loneliness, self-doubt, stress, and even shame. You deserve to work through those things without needing to explain or defend polyamory to your therapist. 


Even when you know that nonmonogamy is right for you, it can still be hard – and that’s ok! It’s normal to experience feelings like jealousy and insecurity, to struggle with effective communication, or to have a hard time juggling commitments without wearing yourself thin.


Plus, the emotional complexity of managing multiple partnerships can sometimes make it harder to cope with the anxiety or depression you are already experiencing. It’s important to be able to address your mental health in a way that doesn’t dismiss your polyamorous identity, but also acknowledges how you can improve your well-being within it. 

That’s where I come in.

How Nonmonogamy affirming therapy can help

My practice is in an accepting environment where all parts of you are invited to be present and heard.

Here, you’ll receive the time and support to explore and make sense of your thoughts, feelings, desires, and decisions – without judgment or pathologizing. 

Through thoughtful listening and compassionate guidance, I will help you deepen your self-understanding, cultivate emotional resilience, and strengthen your coping skills, all while building and nurturing relationships that feel authentic to you.  

It takes courage to build a life outside the norm. And it can feel confusing and lonely, sometimes, trying to figure these things out without pre-existing maps or models. Let’s work together to envision what’s possible for you… and how to get there.

Some of my guiding principles :

  • Open Dialogue - Our work together will be characterized by honest, respectful conversations about your concerns and experiences. I’ll invest time in building trust with you, so that you can feel free to talk to me about anything and everything. 

  • Non-pathologizing Approach- I avoid judgmental labeling, or treating you like there is something “wrong” with you. The way I see it, we are working together to help you build the life you want. 

  • Cultural sensitivity and cultural humility - I have personal and professional experience with a diverse array of relationship styles and family structures… but I also know that I don’t know everything! We will learn both from and with each other. 

  • Holistic Framework - I recognize that your emotional, physical, spiritual, and relational health are all interconnected, and equally deserving of thoughtful and comprehensive care. 

  • Healing Through Connection - Something powerful happens when you feel seen and accepted by another: you are able to truly change and grow. A strong alliance with a therapist is one way of accessing this.

Things we can work on together include…

  • Understanding both jealousy and compersion

  • Defining and developing relationship agreements that work for you 

  • Bolstering communication and conflict-resolution skills

  • Navigating societal judgment and misunderstanding 

  • Addressing internalized stigma and shame 

  • Exploring identity, and fostering personal growth  

  • Enhancing self-compassion, self-confidence, and self-trust 

FAQs

Frequently asked questions about nonmonogamy affirming therapy

  • Nonmonogamy is more of an umbrella term that refers to any relationship style or arrangement in which individuals engage in consensual romantic or sexual relationships with more than one person at a time. There are many forms of nonmonogamy, including polyamory, open relationships, swinging, relationship anarchy, and more.

    Polyamory is a specific form of nonmonogamy in which individuals have multiple romantic relationships at the same time, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. It’s based on the idea that love is not limited to one person, and people can build emotional, romantic, and sexual connections with more than one partner.

  • You don’t have to be sure that you’re polyamorous to work with me, or have even started practicing nonmonogamy yet. Deciding whether a certain relationship style is a good fit for your values, needs, and desires is a deeply personal process, and therapy can be a useful space to explore these questions. In our sessions, I can help you reflect, gain insights, and move toward a relationship style that works best for you, whatever that may be

  • Nope! I work with people of all relationship styles, including those who are monogamous, in open relationships, exploring nonmonogamy, or in polyamorous relationships… or people who are uncertain and trying to figure it all out. My goal is to offer a judgment-free, inclusive environment where you can discuss your relationship concerns, no matter how you define or structure your relationships.

  • All of the above. I welcome individuals, couples, and polycules (polyamorous groups) who want to work through challenges or explore new ways of relating to one another. I also welcome platonic partners and friends who would like to pursue relationship therapy together.

You don’t have to figure this out alone.